Have you ever felt stuck?
Trapped by an invisible glob of molasses that seemingly holds you stuck regardless of how much you move?
It's like quicksand really, the more you move the more stuck you get.
But somehow in the back of your head you think, but I can't just sit here! I must do something!
Well I must confess, it's been a long time since I felt truly stuck. Maybe I needed to experience it so I could better appreciate my regular state of being in Flow.
People often ask me how I'm able to do all I do, be so productive, manage 3 businesses, do aerial dance and seemingly always be so uplifting and positive.
Well the truth is that I'm NOT ALWAYS like that! I don't know if anyone ever is, but I certainly STRIVE to ALWAYS be that way.
The result is that I'm like that a good 95% of my existence. So when I feel stuck...well, it majorly sucks!
It's frustrating to say the least. And I've come to realize that the more successful you are the more expectation and responsibility you feel. At least I do.
The funny and embarrassing thing is, I'm stuck with the very thing I help most people move through and open to possibilities. Get clear about a path of action and decide what the main focus of my communication will be about.
Now I think there are a lot of things at play here: namely I'm deeply concerned about what is happening in the world and especially our country. I want to make a difference and stand for what truly matters. Speak up and not allow our civil rights, liberties and freedoms to be taken away.
And at the same time I'm overwhelmed by the enormity of it, by all the work I have to do, by all the tasks accumulating in my desk and the growing pile of papers "I don't seem to have the time to clean up."; oh and last but not least tackling taxes for 3 different businesses.
I literally want to run and hide under the covers. No, better yet, have the earth open up and swallow me whole, for a little while anyway. Maybe steal that "pause" button that freezes everyone else while you are free to roam around. Maybe I could sleep. lol.
And at the same time there is this river of EXPANSION of UNLIMITED POTENTIALS ABOUT TO MANIFEST..
I feel it in my being. And I don't know what it is...yet.
It feels big and consequently scary and since my rational brain can't make sense of any of it, it's pretty much boycotting everything.
For the 1st time in my life I'm at a standstill...seeing things go by and not being able to hop on the wagon...
And while my head wants to jump in and figure it out and plan it out and strategize...my body more aligned with my spirit is saying no.
And the openings and happenings are set into motion: at the beginning of the year I claimed "(MAGICAL) EASY MANIFESTATION and FLOW as my theme.
My body and the Universe are paying attention and have set things into motion.
I envisioned fun, adventure, connection, play, money, abundance, health, impact and travel as part of the package. Money flowing to me easily and effortlessly to support me being, doing and inspiring people all over the world.
Attracting a tribe of friends, allies and co-creators that come together in love and creation to enhance the value of what we individually do.
And it's happening...people are coming out and reaching out to me to connect, to collaborate, to co-create. I have more speaking invitations that I know what to do with...
And all of a sudden.... SCREECH!!!
Everything came to an abrupt halt. My body in harmony with my intention is no longer allowing me to push and hustle the way I've done in the past.
Which is good on one side and a major inconvenience on the other as my regular speed is about 150 and my body wants to go around 60...
The piles, opportunities, collaborations and responsibilities are all of a sudden feeling very heavy and my body shut down.
The intuitive side of me recognizes it is time to slow down, to honor, to dream, to connect, to play and mostly to listen...but my strategic, Uber fast brain is...going...
Forcing myself to sit down in front of my computer to do "work" has proven fruitless and pretty much every other "productivity" strategy I know is not working!
AM I admitting to this out loud? Shit!
Well, maybe it is good for me to experience for a while what many of my clients experience and the frustrations associated with it.
What I know is that something is out of alignment or some unconscious fear or limiting belief is blocking the pathway.
So what am I doing?
I'm taking to doing the one thing that always brings me back to the TRUTH.
Free writing... (and now you get to read it as it flows...)
Somehow writing connects my brain and intuition in an unexpected way. My mind asking the questions and my intuition answering through my fingers. Perhaps it's the artist in me coming through in this way.
In fact pretty much all of this is typed on my phone. Almost as if I'm taking dictation. It is a strange and refreshing feeling. I do it on my phone because I can be away from my computer and relaxing on the couch-
(Yep I pretty much felt like I better stop pretending to work and just give myself the pleasure to do whatever I want to do) which currently is laying on the couch by my husband and cat.
And because my brain is so fucking active, I might as well ask the questions and allow for what needs to come out to come out.
What I'm recognizing is that all the things I've been working towards are coming at me actually easier and faster...but that means I need to uplevel, to clarify and tighten my message and to ask myself WHAT IS THE MESSAGE I NEED TO DELIVER?
What is the transformation I want to focus on?
I feel the pressure...(people waiting on me to give them my talking points and updated bios) and yeah maybe some of this is coming from my perfectionist ego, but mostly from the recognition that when I'm unclear about my message and the transformation I deliver I'm doing a huge disservice to all the people I COULD HELP but they didn't get that and therefore continue to struggle in their business and their life.
This is a question that many people struggle with. One of the main questions my clients come to me for help with- and no, the irony of it doesn't escape me :-).
My problem is not unique to me. This is gonna sound snooty and I promise is not intended that way...you may in fact experience this too:
I KNOW TOO MUCH ABOUT TOO MANY THINGS!
And it's both a blessing and a curse. Currently feeling a bit like a curse but also knowing that it is truly an amazing blessing. (I find that people that have the most wisdom and the most to deliver are the ones who struggle the most about what to focus their messaging on.)
I was raised under the assumption that knowledge is power and that the more I learned the better prepared I'd be and the more I'd be able to effect change in the world.
So I've been a nerd with my nose stuck in a book for as long as I can remember. With 4 university degrees and countless courses and certifications I now know a multitude of things.
No I don't know it all, but I do know a lot.
Having ADHD I'm sure has contributed to this. Most people find me interesting for this reason and interestingly enough it is the reason they are walking away empty handed...they don't know exactly what they will get. (ouch! do you resonate with any of this?)
Enter the problem in a world and a market where the key word is specialization and segmentation, we have been taught to be leery of anyone who claims to help us with lots of things because we have been often been told "Jack of all trades, master of none"; "the riches is in the niches" and so on.
Yet, I have a slightly different perspective. We have segmented so much of our life experience that we are missing the BIG PICTURE.
We go here to learn this little piece, and there to learn another piece, and we go on this entrepreneurial merry go round, where everyone promises great things and seldom deliver them because they are in fact only teaching you how to use one tool in a very specific manner.
And this to me feels like a CAGE!
I'm a freedom seeker and freedom lover. I'm a visionary and integrative thinker. I believe that when we can integrate all of who we are, when we can bring all of the pieces of our experience that we can truly transcend the limits that we have imposed upon us.
True freedom does reside not only in knowledge but in assimilation and integration of this knowledge into your being in a unique way.
I believe that our gifts are fully expressed and manifested when we can open the door to our creativity, love and acceptance of everything that we are.
I believe we are at the crux of human evolution where our "old" paradigms are loudly clashing with the "new" paradigms trying to emerge.
We must trust and allow our hearts to be guiding us rather than our minds!
And it is time...it is OUR time to speak up, to rise up and share a message of new leadership of more consciousness...and it will will face the resistance of the "old". Perhaps even harshly. And we need to be brave.
So for now, I'm sharing with you the steps I'm taking, even as I'm taking them:
STOP PUSHING! Listen to my body. Notice the energy and quit trying to "will" myself into doing something that clearly is not to happen at this moment.
WRITE- it helps to give me clarity of what is actually happening and somehow helps me feel less stuck. (However for you it could be doodling, painting, dancing, playing music, taking a shower of going for a walk.) the point is: take the fucking time and stop pushing.
PATTERN INTERRUPT- this is where you recognize your pattern and you consciously choose to do something else. For me it has been: "when things get hard, work harder"; "so things are hard right now and I'm consciously choosing to take a break, despite the mound of pressure". For you it may be something different. The more joyful the activity the better. When we engage in joyful and happy activities we get into flow. When we flow we become expansive, creative and limitless. And from this feeling state we may be able to see opportunities and solutions that previously were closed to us.
ASK FOR GUIDANCE - Take the time to connect to your soul guidance, spirit guides, highest self, intuition or whatever you want to call this soul fource. Ask for its assistance and to be shown a path, a way out of the Forrest, out of the molasses.
LISTEN- asking can be the easy part, actually taking the time to tune in and listen is much harder. Information may not come how you want it or at the speed you want it. Darn. So be open to all of the ways in which this may come to you. Notice the synchronicities. Be willing to trust, to try something new or go out on a limb. You never know what may be revealed to you.
ASK FOR HELP- this is actually asking for assistance from others. This could be your coach, your spouse a good friend, your mastermind or a colleague. Getting some perspective or other ideas may spark one for you.
READ INTUITIVELY- this is odd, I've never talked about this but it's incredibly helpful. What this means is look at the collection of books you have or even go to the bookstore and browse. Inevitably there will be a book that will jump out at you wanting to develop a relationship with you. Pick it up and intuitively open it to a random page and start reading. Chances are there is a message there you need to get. After that you may decide you need to keep reading or buy the whole thing.
BE HONEST- this is the hard part. You may need to go through a series of questions to determine what is in fact the THING OR THINGS getting in your way. Acknowledge them even if it's scary and take ownership of how they are impacting you today.
PULL THE WEEDS- you may need help and support from a good coach or mentor. Clear out and pull the weeds of negative belief patterns that are sabotaging your progress.
MAKE A DECISION- then re-commit. Make a decision (doesn't matter what it is), re-engage in action and start moving towards it...it will become clear as you move whether that is the clear path or whether you need to try an alternative.
BE WILLING TO LEAP AND FAIL- no one ever accomplished anything extraordinary without the willingness to fail. So get after it. Fail faster.
Through this process, I gained insights about the 3 limiting beliefs and the 1 FEAR that were holding me back.
I've made a decision, and I can't wait to see what happens from here!
Let me know WHAT you resonate with and how this process works for you!
Till next time,
Defy the Ordinary, Become Extraordinary!
Dr. Elena
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